Posted on January 8, 2015 in All about me, Art & Culture, Millennial Musings, Real Talk, Reblogs, Work
Sometimes, when I hear a word, images and stories immediately come rushing into my head.
Betsy Ross sewing stars and stripes. Laura Ingalls running across the prairie. Blonde-haired, blue-eyed kids watching fireworks. The Oregon Trail. Hands on hearts screeching out the Star-Spangled Banner. A picture of Uncle Sam.
“Hey, you!” Uncle Sam says.
I look around.
“You!” He barks. “I want you!”
“Me?” I ask nervously. “For what?”
His index finger points at me accusingly, even though in my culture pointing is a gesture for dogs. I imagine he’s calling me out, saying: “You don’t belong here.” I look into Sam’s eyes at his white hair and beard and creamy skin and realize he’s right. As a mixed race, Chinese-American woman, these stories of America, quite literally, don’t know the half of it.
This entry also appears on the Minnesota Humanities Center blog.
10 Cardinal Karaoke Sins
Posted on December 13, 2014 in Advice, Millennial Musings, Real Talk
Does anything beat the feeling of screeching out your favorite nostalgic hit and becoming your own rock star?
Ok…well , besides cheese.
I’ve loved to sing for a long time. Along with choirs and musicals in school, as an adult I’ve always enjoyed karaoke. When I lived in China in 2007, I discovered KTV–the delightful private room karaoke where you can drink, eat snacks and sing until 4 in the morning. In the states, I’ve more commonly heard it referred to as Noraebang and it is sort of my go-to fun thing to do whenever I get together with a big group of friends. Now that I’ve had the exclusive treatment it is so so hard to go back to “plebian” karaoke. However, every once in a while, if the occasion calls for it, I’ll brave the crowds and have throw down some tunes in public.
With my experiences with these different types of karaoke, I’ve encountered all sorts of things. And, the more experiences I have with it, whether they be public or in private, there are definitely a few cringe-worthy actions that will always send me (and any other karaoke veteran) reeling.
The Myth of Perfectionism
Posted on October 23, 2014 in All about me, Millennial Musings, Real Talk
*looks around bashfully*
In my long absence from blogging I’ve been doing soul-searching. Doing a lot of thinking. A lot of day dreaming. And a lot of deep-dives into myself with the help of a therapist.
Something that has come through all of this, something about myself that I’ve never realized before, never had a name for is something my therapist calls paralyzing perfectionism.
When she first told me that I just had to laugh. Looking at my grades in school, my weight, the state of my room I would have never classified myself as any sort of perfectionist. Me? A perfectionist? No way. Shouldn’t perfectionists be…well, perfect?
Or at the very least approaching perfection y’know? Like one of those asymptotes that you look at in Calculus class. The kind that you know INTELLECTUALLY never actually touch the X-Axis but gosh darnit it get’s so close, even your Calculus teacher tells you to just just solve for X=0.
All About Me: Why my daughter will have blue hair
Posted on April 4, 2014 in All about me, Millennial Musings, Real Talk
Okalie dokalie everyone!
So, I know I promised a weekly/semi-weekly/monthly/whenever the heck-I-want-ly segment of “All About Me.” While I will always use my own experiences to illuminate my opinions and views on things, these segments will be more focused inward: something that I’m thinking or feeling or experiencing or doing in my own life. Or, maybe sometimes I’ll sing a song. Y’know whatever.
Don’t worry y’all. I’m not pregnant.
Posted on March 30, 2014 in Advice, All about me, Millennial Musings, Real Talk
Everyone hold up your white flag. So much of the time it feels like we’re at war. Every day is a battle we have to win. But, what if we stop fighting? Is it even possible? To stop attacking other people and ourselves, and just surrender?
#StitchFix Review: Fix #4 and a mini rant
Posted on March 27, 2014 in Fashion, Millennial Musings, Real Talk, Reviews
Sooo, here’s the thing…
I started this post on January 31. Yikes! Talk about tardy. So by now, I’ve already worn most of the pieces and you’ll probably be able to tell what I got and what I didn’t get. Still, I think it’s important to give credit where credit is due and wanted to give Stitch Fix a mini shout out after some flack that I’d been giving them for my last couple fixes.
I’ll admit, I went into this fix with a bad attitude. After Fix 2 and Fix 3 I said to myself, I’m going to give this thing ONE. MORE. CHANCE. and it BETTER not let me down again. And, to be honest, I had to take a second look at some of these items before I gave them the ultimate thumbs up. Throughout the whole experience I just had to repeat my Stitch Fix manta: remember the red pants.
#Blogtops Challenge: Things That Make You Feel Like You Are (or are pretending to be) a Grown-up
Posted on February 11, 2014 in #Blogtops, Millennial Musings, Real Talk
After a(nother) long hiatus, #blogtops are back! This week’s topic? Grown-up!
The Fag Hag Speaks
Posted on January 28, 2014 in Art & Culture, Millennial Musings, Real Talk, Reviews
Today’s blog post was inspired by this article that’s been floating around my Facebook circles for the last few days: The Myth of the Fag Hag and Dirty Secrets of the Gay Male Subculture written by Rohin Guha. The article touches on a number of issues, but if I were to paraphrase (which, for the record, I try to avoid doing for the most part because it shortchanges people’s stories and experiences) I would say that it acknowledges the existence of a gay-male privilege and dominance which serves to dehumanize and objectify women. The article goes along to encourage gay men to break down their their adopted personas which have thus far served to perpetuate these views and treatment of women.This article really hit home for me, but maybe not in the way that you might expect.
All About Me: Keeping it Real in Minnesota
Posted on January 28, 2014 in All about me, Millennial Musings, Real Talk
I know. I know.
You guys know how it is. One thing leads to another and, all of a sudden, it’s been a month since your last post.
I’ve been busy. Aside from the daily (and not so daily) grind of working at the Minnesota Humanities Center, I’ve been hanging out with my friends from Theoroi, trying to keep warm with these historically low temperatures, planning a group (20-person) trip to Clearwater Beach, FL, and putting out feelers in anticipation for some changes here at #Upandcoming #Quarterlifer. Keep checking back and you’ll see…
I’ve got a couple more substantial blogs in the pipeline, but in the meantime, here’s me keeping it real in the Minnesota winter. Excuse my french at the end. Mornings like this tend to get you riled up.
The 6 Unsung Heroes of the Holidays
Posted on December 25, 2013 in Millennial Musings, Real Talk
Jesus. Santa. Hanukkah Harry.
This time of year I feel like some people get all the spotlight!
Not not to take away from any of our commonly celebrated figures, but there are so many other people that go into making all holidays great! In the flurry of vacations, gift shopping, cookie baking, and all of our holiday traditions, I feel like sometimes it’s easy to forget about all of our “behind the scenes” folks who work to create all of the magic that people feel this time of year.
So, let’s all take a moment to honor all of our forgotten heroes of the holidays!